On Sunday morning my family traveled to New Port Richey for breakfast with my parents. As we entered Aunt Sally’s, a retired woman looked at my wife and children and asked, “are you going to church?” She must of noticed the incredulous look on my wife’s face, adding “to learn about Jesus (drawn out for maximum notice).” My wife looked at her and responded, “no. we are going to breakfast, as you can see.” The woman hmmphed at my wife and walked away. It took much of breakfast for my wife to get over the exchange. I thought of all the sarcastic responses I had refrained from (that all were better off for me not sharing).
It reminded me of how abrasive we can be when compelled to share things we believe in. When I was younger I was taught that when people reject the message we present (usually in the form of an evangelistic presentations), they are rejecting the message, not us.
However, I think when people are rejecting something, we do not understand they are rejecting us, not the message, usually due to our obnoxiousness. I used to tell people that there was no such thing as American victims of persecution for their Christian beliefs. There were only obnoxious Christians that were persecuted for their lack of tact or decorum (yes, I always overstate for effect).
I did find out one thing about me, as the evangelized. I do what most people do. I ignore the person and walk away, not engaging. My wife wanted to engage and probably converse with the person regarding our faith and how it would be better to be less abrasive. However, I want to get away as quickly as possible.